The Waiting Game

April 7, 2011

I’ve been Blessed with TWO AMAZING and beautiful mamas that are both awaiting the arrivals of their little ones (any moment now actually!). I have been blessed with an amazing “back up” doula (who is my Doula too!) who is willing to support and care for these mamas should their babies come simultaneously. I have somehow been blessed with MULTIPLE caregivers for my DS (whome he is rather fond of as well! bonus points!) should my DH be at work when the babies make their appearance.  Yet somehow, I’m still anxious. Anxious for the mamas to meet their little ones. Ready to serve, support and strengthen these women as they literally push through one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences of a womans life (or so I think). 

All of that to say, Thank you to mama 1 and mama 2 for picking me to be your Doula. You had MANY options out there and I do not take it lightly that you are trusting me to be a part of this intimate time in your family’s life.

Here’s to a short wait and 2 healthy, happy babies in the near future *cheers*

My heart is full tonight. Great day with my little family, as well as a rather inspiring visit to my midwife. I myself am 7 months pregnant, and would NEVER dream of delivering without a Doula after knowing the benefits and NO KNOWN RISKS of having one by my side. I think a Doula is a VITAL part of the Childbirth experience.

I talked with some of the staff after my appointment about offering my services at no charge to fellow patients/moms/clients of the birth center because I was looking for births to attend while working towards by DONA certification. I had sent a flyer into the office and they graciously hung it up, which is why we were talking to begin with. One of the midwives told me that she could find me a plethora of clients to work with, because my services were … free. It should have been great news, which from a business and experiential standpoint, it is, but from a deep-down-something-has-to-change point, it stung a little. Knowing that there are an abundance of women who NEED and DESIRE a doula, but cannot afford it, thus they don’t pursue finding that support burns a hole in me. Women who may wind up with a birth journey that is LESS than desired, by their standards. Women who will never know the benefits of that one-on-one, continuous, unbiased, non-judgemental support. My heart burns to share the EMPOWERMENT a woman experiences when she make informed birth decisions and they are ACTUALLY supported and carried out. I MUST do something about this. I’ve been brewing ideas up all day about how I can start a fund that will pay for Doula services for women in need. Maybe finding a group of Doulas that will do more Pro-Bono or Bartered care because the need is truly there. The possibility of making women aware that finances should NEVER come in the way of one of the most life altering experiences they will ever encounter.

The need is there. The desire is there. The support is there. How do we connect the circle?

Doula Abby makes a Debut

February 26, 2011

I have decided today will be the day I being my blogging journey as a Doula. I want to share my passions and excitement for empowering women to know their birth choices and to help them understand that their choices for birth are to be THEIRS ALONE. Each woman will make different choices, and I want to support them by being another strong, educated, well informed woman by their side to help them have the birth experience they desire. To help them rediscover the RIGHTS and POWER birth can bring to their lives when the experience is a beautiful one, as THEY define it.

My hearts desire is to share with women the knowledge of HOW a woman and her unborn baby dance a beautiful, rhythmic dance during Labor and Birth. How they are a TEAM and together, will bring the baby out of her womb and into her heart forever. How many interventions in birth are not necessary when she listens to her body and the signals from her baby, but at the same time guiding a woman to the understanding that interventions are NOT always bad. When they are used moderately, appropriately and when their risks are made clear, sometimes those interventions are the very things we that help to safely bring our babies into this world.

I will be sharing a plethora of information on natural childbirth, or as I like to call it Original Childbirth. Childbirth the way women have done it for thousands of years: together, supported, fearless and free. I will also share information on Cesarian Section births and the benefits when used appropriately, Epidurals and their benefits, as well as real risks, and any other birth related fun stuff I see fit because lets face it, this is my blog, and I have the rights to write whatever I see fit 🙂

I wish the best to all of you who will stumble upon my blog. Those who are moms, dads, sisters or brothers, I hope you find something that will make you laugh or smile or feel empowered to help women through one of the most trying and amazing experiences of their lives, and the lives of their babies.

Until Next Time,

Doula Abby